In this world we are living in, where Instagram always reminds us of how right we were to react in the way we reacted , it becomes hard to people to truly dig deep within and reflect on moments where they were toxic.
Self discovery is the best thing you can do for your family, your friends , your partner and even yourself. Through self discovery we get to know ourselves in the deepest manner and through that knowledge we get to navigate life as captains of our own ships not just passengers.
If one gets to look closely in social media posts that talk about Ex bf and ex gf , u would realize that the other party is always to blame, they were the ones that were wrong in the relationship which later led to th break up. To me , I see all those posts as toxic tools that help groom toxic people in society.
The ability to see where u went wrong in every argument is a blessing. Even if the other person is truly at fault, being able to see where u were wrong is self mastery in it’s excellence. Sometimes we are at fault because of the words we said and the words we did not say. Sometimes we are at fault because we let that conversation gain that much momentum. Sometimes we are at fault because………..I’m pretty sure you can finish that statement by imagining th role you were supposed to play which you later didn’t.
So after blabbering everything ,what am I trying to say.
I’m saying, it is good to see the toxic us before we stretch a finger to identify the next person who is “in your words TOXIC”. By learning to play your role in every situation we get to see life from a thousand angles and open up space for more growth and improvement as individuals.
Sometimes we enter into relationships with our TOXIC mindsets and mouths , which Never know the word sorry. At the end of the day we let our pride and egos take control and ruin our beautiful bonds which took an arm and a heart to build.
NB. There are instances where the other person is really TOXIC by all definitions, and Instead of apologizing everyday, it’s best to walk away.
We humans are complex beings special in every way from our genetic makeup to ways of living that is why you can prescribe one solution for all the individuals on the face of the Earth because we are all different.
So with the advice Ive posted on top be sure to take whatever lesson you derived and be a better person. Do it for you, do it for your family and do it for your friends. They too deserve a better version of you that focuses on spreading love and peace.
Ciao for now
Dusheng
Dusheng 